Tori Autumn



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I am a certified life coach, bestselling author, public speaker, and relationship blogger who is passionate about helping women create a positive mindset to identify and honor their self-worth - which helps attract their ideal relationship.

“Perhaps, we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us, they know exactly how it should be done.” – Rudy Francisco

For many years, I felt stuck in unhealthy relationships. I found myself constantly feeling like I was giving my all as a chronic people-pleaser, and getting very little return.

I was constantly changing to suit my partner’s needs, all the while losing a part of my voice that I was (loudly) used to expressing.

I was in a revolving state of the honeymoon phase - arguing, breaking up, and then doing it all over again.

Then, one day after writing out my feelings in a journal, a light switch turned on in my head and I said to myself, “Starting today, I choose me” – and I haven’t looked back since.


I went from saying “this is the last time” 50 (ok, maybe 80 times), to being able to easily leave a situation that didn’t meet my standards.

This shift came as a result of changing the way I felt about myself, which meant facing some tough realities and truths so that I could break through the unhealthy cycles I found myself constantly repeating through personal and professional relationships.

I gave up on trying to change someone to fit my idea of an amazing partner. Instead, I used that same energy to change myself into becoming the woman of my dreams. And what did I get in return? An amazing partner that matched the same energy I put into myself.

I have learned from my self-sabotaging habits and have created a lifestyle for myself where there’s only room for healthy and sustainable relationships.

For me, getting it wrong over and over again was a valuable lesson. As a serial dater, and someone who tended to fall out of relationships faster than I would land in them, I've learned that it’s necessary to put myself first so that I’m able to attract and maintain a happy relationship.

You deserve a great relationship. You deserve to be happy.  

Together we will create positive changes in your life. You’ll learn how to break the cycle of a toxic relationship, build emotional strength and start taking back control of your life so that you can find joy and peace.  


You need to know that toxic relationships do not define you - they merely serve as a stage in your life.

As you grow and change, you need to find a person who reflects your current life stage and level of development.

You have the tools you need to attract your ideal partner and I’d love to show you how to shift your mindset to design this new and fulfilling love life.  Let’s take this journey together! Check out my services here.